Saturday, May 2, 2009

How involved should "we" get?? What is smart and what is not...

Warning, Extremely Long Wordy Post Ahead!!
So, the area in question here is the homeless population in Calgary. I have always been a suburbia girl myself, so I have never quite been so overwhelmed with the homeless population in a city as I am here. This is really the first time I have ever lived in the "inner city". I have been approached by quite a few homeless people who come up to the mini-van at gas stations asking for money or cigarettes, I even had one person follow me all through a grocery store while I got everything on my list while Collin was in the cart, so that I could help them with money when I checked out. I was a little scared which is why I complied. Overall, the homeless people here have not seemed too dangerous, but a little more aggressive here in approaching you and asking you eye to eye. I am not sure if it has to do with where we live or that possibly there are more homeless people here than we have ever encountered before. Don't get me wrong, we do not live in "the hood" at all, we live in a very nice inner city neighborhood, with lots of families and children.

Let me rewind to 25yrs. ago....

All through my elementary school career, we lived in Denver, CO. My grandparents also lived there. Often times, when I would go to my grandparents house, which was a nice middle class home in a nice suburb of Denver, my grandfather, "Bu" would take me on walks. Before our walks, he would often hand me a plastic grocery bag and I would know what we were going to do.....the collecting the cans game. I thought all kids did this with their grandparents! I thought it was fun, we collected as many cans as we could, then he would take my brother and I to a place where we would get money(very little money) in exchange for the cans. Sometimes we would come home from our walks with many bags...sometimes, none at all. I think it went a bit far at one point when he had taken us to a park and "Bu" and I were digging through the big dumpsters for cans. It was at this point when a couple of teenage guys saw us digging and came up to us and handed my grandfather some coins....I am sure that my mother was a little horrified...but that is truly my only experience being a can collector, dumpster diver...and it was hard work, but I had a nice warm bed to go home to. I think after that, we stopped with taking the bags on our walks:)

Fast forward to now. We have been here for four months, I have never witnessed so many people diving in dumpsters for cans and anything salvageable. As you drive through drive thru's there are usually people right by the drive thru digging in the dumpsters. I feel especially bad if it is a really bone chilling cold day and I see them as I go thru the Starbucks drive thru, they are cold and digging. A friend of ours told us to leave our cans behind our house in our alley and let them collect the cans...I thought it was a decent idea and I had noticed that the man behind our house often left out a coat or some gloves etc...so we started doing that. I must say that Earle did question if it was a good idea to attract people to come near our home. Although he did like the idea of helping people in such an easy way. Strangely enough, within 30 minutes or so of putting them out, they were almost always gone. So you wonder, how they know so quickly and where they may be hiding and watching things from. Yesterday morning, I was coming home from getting some coffee and as I pulled into the alley I saw 3 men walking down it with their grocery carts looking for left out cans. They stopped almost directly behind my house and started chatting with someone, as if, stopping by the neighbors house to say hello. Then I realized that a homeless person had been staying almost directly behind our house. I had remembered on a walk seeing through the fence that there was an old chair and a mattress behind the shed in some one's backyard. Hmmm...my first thought was, maybe we should leave out our left overs for this person or something...I kind of wanted to see where he was living...it was hard to see through the fence, but I could see where he got into the people's yard, there was a hole where the trash cans are collected that he crawled through. I decided I might have to snap a quick picture over the fence so I could see...so on my way to take Ben to school yesterday, I took some pictures outside and then decided to quickly take one to ease my curiosity of where this person was dwelling...


After I picked Ben up from school as I drove down our alley I squinted to try and see between the slots of the fence a little more than I could capture from the pretty poor picture I had taken of the dwelling... and to my disappointment, the chair and mattress were gone. He had left! I am afraid I may have scared him by taking the picture, I had not thought that he was there at the time!

My neighbor was pulling into her garage and I told her of the events of the day. I told her that I felt so badly that I may have scared this person off. She on the other hand, was horrified that there was a homeless person setting up camp directly behind her home! She told me that about the time that we moved in that the three other homes in our garage grouping had all had their garages broken into and bikes and things stolen. And then she said she had noticed that we had been leaving out cans, and that the other neighbors had decided after the break-ins to not leave them out or anything that might attract people to our alley. I guess I now understand her surprised reaction. So after such a long story.....can you tell me what is our place?? I understand being smart about not getting vandalized, but seriously, I have really been thinking about people and classes of people and how everyone is equal in God's eyes. I mean, none of us have "immunity" to the possibility of that happening to us some day. I am sure that none of these homeless people thought, "Hey, I want to be a homeless person when I grow up and have to beg people for stuff and dig through dumpsters."

What about the poor man and Lazarus? Jesus really seems to focus quite a few of his messages on helping the poor and needy people. Hebrews 13:2 says.."Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it."

So where is the line here? I know you have to use common sense and be careful, but it is a hard line to define, especially if it is an issue that is literally almost right in your back yard. I am sure there are other ways to help...maybe we'll just leave our cans out at the recycling plant. Any thoughts????

Here are the pics I took on Friday...


Alley behind our garage...
This fence is to the facing our garage just back from the garage you see on the left. The cut out hole is where people put their trash cans. This is where the person would get in and out of the back yard directly, catty cornered behind our garage.

Dwelling Place....you can see a chair through the fence vaguely... Over the fence....not a great pic, but really so sad.


CB

4 comments:

  1. hi carrie - i appreciate your thoughts on this topic. i wish i could really get into this...but here is my short answer: Jesus set us a great example for caring for others and 'living on the edge' and the Bible is quite clear about caring for the poor and oppressed...however, you need to find where to place the line so that you and your family are comfortable living on that side of the line.
    have a super week :)

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  2. I agree with Brandi, Carrie. This is a tough one! You want to be Jesus like in your response and yet, at the same time, have a responsibility to your children and your neighbors. I WILL say that we DO live in "the hood." (At least a little more inner city than you.) And we leave out our cans and bottles regularly. So far, this has worked for us. We have not felt threatened in any way. We have had a bike stolen, but I do not think it was because we left our cans out. Stuff is stuff. But, family is family. If I EVER felt we were putting our family in jeopardy by putting our cans out or stopping to chat with the homeless guys, I would never do it. I have felt, since living here, that these people are the "eyes of the neighborhood" and probably know more about what goes on behind the scenes than I do. I think it is a very personal decision. One way you could still help out the homeless without putting your cans out is to take them to the recycling bins and hand them to whatever person is waiting. There are ALWAYS a few can colletctors hanging out at the recycling places. Anyways- this is getting long. Keep us updated and let us know what you decide is best! Love you!

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  3. Carrie, David and I are always talking about this issue. Jesus said to give to anyone who asks and we, as a culture, get into the whole question of, yes, but are they going to use money to buy alcohol or food or are they just trying to scam us? We ran into this question a lot in Africa because you are always viewed as the rich one if you have white skin, and it is HARD to determine who is truthful and who is scamming. One of the families on our team, who I considered to be VERY involved in the culture and respected by everyone were the very most conservative in how they spent their money (budgeting, etc.) and yet they ALWAYS gave if someone asked for money, even if it was only a portion of what they were asking for. So I tried to follow their example...one day a woman (who I knew) came to my house on market day and asked for some money, saying, "We don't have anything to eat in the house." I didn't completely trust her, and so I told her to come back the next day and I would have something for her, figuring that if she REALLY needed it, she would come back (this was some other advice I had been given). The next day, she was back, and so I gave her a very small amount, even in that culture. Her eyes filled with tears and she immediately began thanking me and smiling and saying, "We can eat today! Thank you, thank you!" And she left without ever asking for another thing. I felt so awful that I would have doubted her and after that experience, I decided to always give a little as well, even if I felt the person was being dishonest.

    I think that each person and family has to decide and purpose in their hearts what's appropriate. I agree that your situation is a little more delicate because you do not want to put yourself or your kids in danger, but at the same time, Jesus' heart was for the POOR and the sick and brokenhearted.

    We have quite a few people asking for money at our intersections in Columbia, and Dave and I have recently decided to keep gift cards to restaurants like McDonalds or Denny's or Waffle House (not too nice that they'd feel out of place but somewhere they could get something inexpensive and substantial) and to give them to people along the way. My only concern with this is if it's encouraging them to continue asking without trying to find work -- is it creating dependency? But again, I want to obey Jesus and give to the one who asks. I want to have compassion.

    These are my very lengthy thoughts!

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  4. What sensitive comments! I'm so touched by Brandi, Eirinlo, Sandi and by your heart Carrie. I believe that each of you have great idea's probably because the spirit has lead you. Whenever I face this issue I earnestly pray for God to give me guidance in what to do in the next few moments before the opportunity passes me by. Sometimes I search through my stash of emergercy money in the console and find nothing - therefore I give nothing. Other times I have an new bottle of water rolling around under the seat and I give that. Other times I've been so touched and guided by God that I drive to the nearest store and buy a bag full of treats, toothbrushes, apples or whatever hits me and deliver it to the person. I think that it is very easy to steal but very hard and humiliating to beg. But I always pray first and wait on God to lead me. I am not scared of beggars unless I get that 'oh no' feeling of dread which is also the spirit of God directing me towards restraint.

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